You can’t make a woman like you by feeling sorry for you. Most of us men blame our inability to attract women on our looks, financial status, diplomas and other external variables that may attribute to low self esteem. Some men use their low self esteem to make women feel guilty about dating them saying off-the-wall things such as “Even though I’m ugly, I have a good heart. You should be with me!” and “Why are you dating that guy? He’s a player.
It’s a shame how all women only want playboys and bad boys.” Though these elements may play a part in increasing your level of attractiveness, it is only small piece of the pie, so making a woman feel sorry for you is a sucker way out.
How Do You Avoid Making Her Feel Sorry For Your?
Step one is taking responsibility for the fact that you are not willing to refine and make the best version of you. Most guys sit back, get comfortable, and surrender to a made-up limiting belief that they are not good enough.
Step two is recognizing the behaviors that are no longer serving you, make a mental note of them, and set small reasonable goals to achieve and change these insecurities.
Step three is discarding the phrase “She is out of your league” out of your mind, usually heard from a friend or someone close to you. He is most likely hating and may want her for himself. If you take it as truth, instead of elevating your league, then you may be settling for less and selling on yourself.
Step four is stop being lazy and living in a dream world. Make sure you figure out what it is holding you back and tackle it. Hire a coach, attend workshops, read books; whatever it takes to help you become the best version of you. If all you do is play video games hoping the pizza delivery girl is smoking hot and falling in love with you the minute you open the door, is delusional thinking. That only happens in Hollywood movies. Which, by the way, such thing is one of the most destructive visuals to your self esteem. It is best to take responsibility for your life and dive into making the best version of you!
